Being a Stay at home mom
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I’ve been a stay at home mom/wife for about four years. Being a stay at home mom has not always been easy and rewarding. That’s very hard for me to admit since I’ve always dreamed of being a mom. Some days were lonely and made me go a little crazy.
It took time and communication with not only my husband but other stay at home moms. I finally learned how to make being a stay at home mom the fulfilling job I wanted it to be. Today I’m sharing these tips with you, so you can enjoy it as well!
1. Getting out of the house
This is the biggest thing for me! I was so lonely and felt cut off from the world. My high school friends had gone off to college and I had chosen motherhood and marriage. I joined some local mom groups on Facebook that had meetups, it was a nice way to get out of the house with the little in tow or sometimes they do mom nights where mommy got some adult time.
I also found a friend that lived above my grandma in law. We meet up every Friday at a kid-friendly place to let the little ones interact with other children and we can have adult talk. Sometimes we go over to have lunch with them or they come over to play with our house full of animals, I swear I run a zoo. Since we’re both stay at home moms it is great for both of us. It also helps our toddlers learn to interact with others their age.
I don’t always go out with someone, sometimes its just me and River. My favorite thing to do together is going to our local Mexican restaurant for lunch. We also pack a picnic basket and go to the park, go for walks around the block, and many other things. Heck, even going to the grocery store can help with the cabin fever.
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2. Having a schedule
I’m guilty of just laying around in my PJ’s and grabbing something quick to feed me and River. On days that I get up and get ready I feel great and get much more done.
My morning routine consists of getting dressed, washing my face and brushing my hair. If I’m really ambitious I’ll do my make up as well. Then I make me and River a healthy breakfast and get started on chores.
I add activities and toddler school throughout the day for River. I love Melissa and Doug’s toys to help teach River different skills. Nap time is when I get to get deep cleaning or projects done since it can be hard with a toddler running around. After she wakes up from her nap we do outside of the house activities.
In the evening I make dinner and then we start our bedtime routine. We do bath time and then I read River a story before bed. This is also when she gets to spend time with her dad. After she’s in bed I get some me time.
3. Me time
Sometimes as moms we forget to take care of ourselves. We’re to busy taking care of the kids, husband, and house. I put River to bed around 8:30 and enjoy a little me time before I cuddle with Cody in bed.
My favorite thing to do is take a bubble bath with a Yankee candle. I either take my phone with me or a book to help me wind down for the night.
I try to find some time in the middle of the day to even sit down and have a cup of tea or do a little yoga. This really helps bring down my stress levels and helps me make it through the evening hours. I try to even meditate, but that usually ends in my remembering all the things I need to do, not so relaxing!
Every birthday, anniversary or certain holidays Cody get me a gift certificate for a massage from Groupon. He then takes River while I enjoy the massage. It’s seriously one of the best presents he can give me. Just the fact that I’m getting out of the house alone reminds me that I have a life outside of being a mom.
4. Meet some mom friends
I’ve already touched on this subject, but it’s very important. Mom friends didn’t become part of my life until a year ago. I had a mom friend from high school who unfortunately moved about 3 hours away last year.
This made me become very lonely and depressed from no social life, which was a big change for me. I joined some facebook mom groups, went out to places that other mom and kids went, got lucky with meeting a mom friend through family, and I also have a sister who is a new mom.
Surprisingly my sister has been the biggest help making me feel less alone. She stays several days in a row at my house and we take the kids out to do things constantly. So keep in mind that sometimes you don’t have to look far for a mom friend.
5. Find a hobby
Sewing was the first hobby I discovered as a stay at home mom. It let me be creative and benefit our house as well. DIY projects is another thing I’ve started playing with. I re-did our nightstands and coffee tables. Made a farmhouse sign for my kitchen since I love farmhouse decor. I’m hoping to start some other projects shortly.
It doesn’t always have to be a productive hobby either. Go join a yoga class, go to local paint nights, etc. Anything that you really enjoy and helps you keep your identity outside of being a mom.
Staying home can be mentally and physically exhausting. Just remember there are ways to make it more enjoyable and keep your sanity. It takes time to adjust, but once you get the hang of it you will do amazing and it’s so worth that time with your sweet babies.